Well.. if you rather be her friend than her boyfriend why go on a date with her? You will be confusing that girl so much...
Think about it from the girls perspective. You take her on dates and talk with her all the time, but you dont take the next step? Girls usually expect the man to take action but you wont. She's not going to like this situation and will be confused as to what you really want with her. In the end she will probably find someone else who does want to be her boyfriend.
I'm just telling you how it generally is, I could of course be completely wrong on this with you're situation. Ah well... Just do whatever, and learn from it.
Well actually in this situation you are abit off. You hold valid points however, she is currently recovering from a long relationship that went bad. I'm trying to be there for her whenever she needs me, as a friend. We are both very interested in eachother but at this point in time she told me flat out that she wasn't ready to get involved with someone yet. I accept that and therefore I am trying my hardest to be a good friend. I don't know what that night was... Because to tell you the truth, I'm also confused. But such is life right?
Edit: Her ex boyfriend is one of those shitbag types who no one likes. But she is still trying because she wants what she once had. I think it will take her a while to get over him, which is another reason why she doesnt want to be in a relationship with me right now. Not untill she can devote her whole heart to me.
I got the whole "I need time to get over this guy" thing too, and the guy was pretty much a douche for no reason. She still obviously cared for him though.
I got tired of waiting, and after some intimate moments I asked her out. I was turned down, saying she didn't want to get in a relationship rgiht now. Then she got together with a random guy like 3 weeks after I asked her out. -_-
I got the whole "I need time to get over this guy" thing too, and the guy was pretty much a douche for no reason. She still obviously cared for him though.
I got tired of waiting, and after some intimate moments I asked her out. I was turned down, saying she didn't want to get in a relationship rgiht now. Then she got together with a random guy like 3 weeks after I asked her out. -_-
STFU BEFORE I POST YOUR EMONESS ON THE FORUMS!
Eh dont worry about me guys... I really just want her to be happy... I just told surge on AIM that I won't let her just glance over me when the time comes, and I also wont pressure her into anything. We will just see how it goes. I'm laid back so hey, if it doesn't work... Tough luck right? I still made a friend out of it, and the more the merrier.
Proxy, you're just an AFC, AFCs never succeed....they just get used as emotional Tampoons! you must become an alpha male in order to make this bitch want you NOW! not when she sover her ex-shithead
"Her ex boyfriend is one of those shitbag types who no one likes." Is it me or this is not the first time i hear... or second ... or third time for that matter at this forum.
But then again Proxy that was you first date ever. So... it doesn't seem like you have alot exp to judge from.
Just because that was the first time I ever went out with a girl to do something does not mean I don't know my share about relationships and love. I am constantly helping my friends out with their relationships and so far I have helped all the ones who were willing strengthen their relationships. But you are right, maybe I don't know what I am talking about. But, I can listen to my heart and still use my brain at the same time. I'm sure they wont guide me wrongly, they haven't yet.
Oh I know I know, and I'm very thankful for all the things you have been pointing out, and everyone else's thoughts, otherwise I wouldn't have made this.
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