Weekends....

Yea, I'd have been pissed if I saw that shit on my girl's phone. If that guy replied "no" it was probably because you told him "no" first. A guy doesn't ask a girl that question unless he's been her best friend for 10 years and she's like his sister and just having innocent conversation or he's trying to get in her pants. It doesn't seem like he's brother-like material to you so I'd say the latter. If my girl went out drinking with a guy who wasn't gay I'd have been pretty jealous too.

A lot of experts debate on what effects members of the opposite sex being friends with in a relationship have. Pretty much -- if you feel like you have a special relationship with a guy that's not your boyfriend then that can lead to affairs. Soon you'll feel like "he knows me so well and he's so nice to me ...if I got with him he'd treat me better" and bullshit like that if you and Kaneda have a hard time =P. I've seen it happen a thousand times.

That's what makes TV shows dramatic.

Hit the nail on the head.

I disagree, but hey, you guys obviously don't have trust in women. Neither do i, but i know myself and I wouldn't do that, especailly in my situation.

Well hopefully you guys can work out your little problems, it'd be much better for the both of you in the long run....


Me and my girl have planned already that if we're going to even go out anywhere we'd end up going with each other.

Yea, and in a few mins i could get a txt saying he wants to move out...life changes, and if i get the desire to "get" with anyone else kaneda and i will work something else out.

See, I feel that if I have a kid, I have something extra to make the relationship work out, not just blow it off. I NEVER want my kid to have Two moms, or a step-mom, I know lots of people that have them and none of them can stand their step-whatevers. I was fortunate enough to have both parents around for the most part, and they have been good with each other from day one.

I disagree, but hey, you guys obviously don't have trust in women. Neither do i, but i know myself and I wouldn't do that, especailly in my situation.

I'm not entirely a traditionalist but I think that if my girl wanted to go out, drink, and dance then I better be with her or she better be dancing with her girlfriends and not random guys. Otherwise that relationship probably would not last too long. It's asking for trouble and it's a nice red flag. Whether or not you -know- you're going to do something, it's not right for you to go out and do that when it bothers your signifigant other with GOOD REASON.

You're with the guy that cheated on you. That sucks. But if you want a relationship to work you can't hold grudges because that's not how a relationship should be. You do what you want and enjoy the arguments that ensue because I'll have to agree with Kaneda on this one. He can be quite a dick but he has very sound reasoning for this. Relationships involve comprimises and you know you can do something fun that doesn't have to involve the company of some dumbass calling you and asking you if you'd cheat or not ...haha.

I'm not entirely a traditionalist but I think that if my girl wanted to go out, drink, and dance then I better be with her or she better be dancing with her girlfriends and not random guys. Otherwise that relationship probably would not last too long. It's asking for trouble and it's a nice red flag. Whether or not you -know- you're going to do something, it's not right for you to go out and do that when it bothers your signifigant other with GOOD REASON. You're with the guy that cheated on you. That sucks. But if you want a relationship to work you can't hold grudges because that's not how a relationship should be. You do what you want and enjoy the arguments that ensue because I'll have to agree with Kaneda on this one. He can be quite a dick but he has very sound reasoning for this. Relationships involve comprimises and you know you can do something fun that doesn't have to involve the company of some dumbass calling you and asking you if you'd cheat or not ...haha.

Ok, you know such little about the situation. I would LOVE to have Kaneda come out with me. He hates the club scene unless he's with someone else. he's never even tried to go w.me, and believe me I have BEGGED him! It's not a random guy, and he knows i have boundries and limits. Yes dance, No grabbing or other activities.

You don't know what our conversation was about and we were talking about relationships going wrong when that came up.

AND, it seems to me that you guys are forgetting a VERY important part to this story, Kaneda told me he wanted to move out and end it earlier that day...and i STILL didn't fuck someone else. Kaneda hasn't even argued a point here so how are you with him? Yea, he was upset when he found out a guy ended up coming...but he's gone to softball-drinks with girls he works with, where's the difference, honostly?

This thread was supposed to be about weekends. Kaneda and I already talked about what happened and everything.

Well, we're agreeing with Kaneda on the being suspicious. Not the whole threatening to move out.

Women are just as jealous and suspicious of men with female friends, it's the jealous nature of the beast.

Slightly off topic, but I hope you mention to hopeful guys that you're involved if they go to buy you a drink. Women who are involved and go to the bar to sponge drinks off the hopeful single guys rank only slightly better than outright thieves in my book.

Ok, you know such little about the situation. I would LOVE to have Kaneda come out with me. He hates the club scene unless he's with someone else. he's never even tried to go w.me, and believe me I have BEGGED him! It's not a random guy, and he knows i have boundries and limits. Yes dance, No grabbing or other activities. You don't know what our conversation was about and we were talking about relationships going wrong when that came up. AND, it seems to me that you guys are forgetting a VERY important part to this story, Kaneda told me he wanted to move out and end it earlier that day...and i STILL didn't fuck someone else. Kaneda hasn't even argued a point here so how are you with him? Yea, he was upset when he found out a guy ended up coming...but he's gone to softball-drinks with girls he works with, where's the difference, honostly? This thread was supposed to be about weekends. Kaneda and I already talked about what happened and everything.

You guys have a fucked up relationship x_X.

Kaneda just goes back and forth with what he wants from life (if you couldn't tell all along...). Our relationship is healthy otherwise. Our arguments are minor and stupid usually.

Of course I tell people im involved. There are rules when getting drinks. 1-you talk to who bought you a drink for at least half your drink. 2- You NEVER ask for a drink. 3- you (i) talk about (kaneda) at least %25 of the time.