Kaneda is a daddy now

She did go out with you, so are you expecting her to find more people to treat her like did?

My thoughts exactly.

She sounds like she cares about her daughter quite a bit, most likely more than you do. She might have had bad judgement when she picked you but that doesn't mean that she's going to do it again, I think having a daughter to care for would change that. I hope so anyway.

I agree, your children should be the most important thing in your life.

I agree, your children should be the most important thing in your life.

lol i just wrote out a huge long thing of what to post...but then realized i dont want him to read half of it cuz he'll get all pissy about it...haha. guess that's why its cool that you dont really know anyone on here.

I want to say that I hope for the best in your endeavors to raise your daughter. I empathize because you may not have wanted kids at this time in your life (as had been the case for my two cousins who had children), but hang in there. Parenthood is full of pain and joy. Focus on the joy more than the pain. And if Kaneda doesn't want to involve himself at all in your daughter's life, as the others have basically said, fuck him.

fuck him.

But not literally, that's what got you into this mess.

Yes, indeed!

I want to say that I hope for the best in your endeavors to raise your daughter. I empathize because you may not have wanted kids at this time in your life (as had been the case for my two cousins who had children), but hang in there. Parenthood is full of pain and joy. Focus on the joy more than the pain. And if Kaneda doesn't want to involve himself at all in your daughter's life, as the others have basically said, fuck him.

yea, that's the difference between kaneda and i. He "blames" us having a kid on me, because i couldn't have an abortion. I was raised differently than him and he's known for the whole 4 years that i couldn't do it. Even if i really wanted to, if anything I could give a baby up for adoption if i couldn't take care of it. I didn't want kids this young, i wanted to be somewhere in my mid-late 20's....I'm only 18. What pisses me off the most so far, is that when I'm up all night with the baby...he's up all night at a bar or w/e. haha, and yes...fucking him did get me into this. But when i told him i couldn't have an abortion, i gave him the opportunity to just leave and not worry about it if he wasn't ready. But he "loved" me so much that he wanted to support whatever decision i made LMAO. ok, well she's screaming a lung out, i better go give her a boob or something.

Start collecting child support. Or do you have to be divorced to do that?

Seriously, Kaneda, I thought you were a good, upstanding guy until I hear her side of the story. You sound like a fucking jealous, jackass pig. It's not all about you. You have a HUGE responsibility now. You have a person in this world that is of your own flesh and blood. Does that not mean anything to you? Fuck all the other girls in your life right now. The only ones you should be caring about are klo and your daughter. Get your fucking priorities straight.

Guys like you are what makes women turn dyke.

Start collecting child support. Or do you have to be divorced to do that? Seriously, Kaneda, I thought you were a good, upstanding guy until I hear her side of the story. You sound like a fucking jealous, jackass pig. It's not all about you. You have a HUGE responsibility now. You have a person in this world that is of your own flesh and blood. Does that not mean anything to you? Fuck all the other girls in your life right now. The only ones you should be caring about are klo and your daughter. Get your fucking priorities straight. Guys like you are what makes women turn dyke.

Yeah! STOP MAKING LESBIANS!!

Start collecting child support. Or do you have to be divorced to do that?

Well i didnt put him on the birth certerifcate so i couldnt do it legally unless i went through someone who would pay for a paternity test. To get medicaid insurance i couldn't say he was the dad cuz we would make too much money...so i said i didn't know who the dad was. And plus, if he gives me child support then he gets "rights" to her...and when she's older he wants to take her for like a couple hours or a weekend or w/e and HELL NO. I'm not going to raise her when she's this little and then when he wants her let him take her. I don't think I'll ever let him be alone w/her...no matter how old she is. Plus i dont think that he'll even be around in a couple months, let alone long enough for her to know/think he's her dad.

It does suck that our sex life is so good....its like he can just look at me and im like "hmmm....". I def. need to get stronger when im around him before I'm allowed to have sex again...or I'll end up in a bigger mess. It's like I'm fine at first when he starts sayin' stuff in reference to sex...but after like the third or fourth thing he says im like "yea, it does sound nice...." and then he just knows ALL my turn ons cuz its been so freaking long. UGH. Not to mention he has a girl, so every look we even give each other is wrong.

Oh, and the boob thing...yea you give her what she wants and your good :P. lol. I'm pretty sure that's all she thinks about....well now she knows my voice and she'll stare at me when im talking to her so maybe she's starting to know me and not my boobs haha.

Start collecting child support. Or do you have to be divorced to do that? Seriously, Kaneda, I thought you were a good, upstanding guy until I hear her side of the story. You sound like a fucking jealous, jackass pig. It's not all about you. You have a HUGE responsibility now. You have a person in this world that is of your own flesh and blood. Does that not mean anything to you? Fuck all the other girls in your life right now. The only ones you should be caring about are klo and your daughter. Get your fucking priorities straight. Guys like you are what makes women turn dyke.

Firstly. Her side of the storys is always skewed. She doesn't tell you guys that she leaves her daughter with people she has only known a month (and do hardcore drugs like X and Coke) to go get high does she? No.
I realize this is a huge responability and I do what I can. It's hard though when her mom is constantly barrading me with "You'll never see her again asshole!" and then 5 minutes later "This is your daughter why are you ignoring her?" usually all day every day. I see her like... every three days usually and I think for a couple that is seperated thats pretty good. Trust me I do want to bond with her and be a part of her life. It's a great feeling when she just stares at me and I know she's memorizing my image and voice, so she will recognize me soon enough.
You all have to remember though she is only 3 weeks old. Theres not a WHOLE lot I can do in the parenting department quite yet. Even if we were together her mom would be doing alot of it... which mostly consists of feeding her, and putting her to sleep.
You should also remember this was forced upon me. Thats like taking someone into slavery and then getting angry that they aren't giving a 100% of work ethic and whistling while they wipe your ass for you. None the less it's still something I have to do, I will, and I am. She has been freaking out the past week because I went a few extra days without seeing her, because I have been dealing with new jobs, and new living situations. Those are priorities before the baby. Money = everything ok? and I do need a place to live.
So what if I spend time with a girl. Just because I had fatherhood shoved down my throat means I can't have a life now? Thats the kinda shit that makes people abondon they're kids because they are miserable. I don't have to spend every second of my free time trying to see the baby when she doesn't even know if she wants me to see her half the time.

Gay long posts.

And plus, if he gives me child support then he gets "rights" to her...and when she's older he wants to take her for like a couple hours or a weekend or w/e and HELL NO. I'm not going to raise her when she's this little and then when he wants her let him take her. I don't think I'll ever let him be alone w/her...no matter how old she is.

You see this is the shit I'm talking about. That's bullshit she won't leave her along with me. I should not be expected to hang out with Klo just because I want to be with my daughter. The reasons we're not together are infinite so why would I want to walk around a park with her or have her at my apt?

You sound just like my cousin Rebecca. Though her "boyfriend" didn't conk out of her life until the second child. The first one she had at 16, but she gave her up for adoption.

ok, well she's screaming a lung out, i better go give her a boob or something.

Srry.

But lol.

Way to focus on that sentence.