!King_Amazon! said:
Alright well when we go back to living in caves I'll agree with you. Until then, I don't think gender really has that much to do with it. I've seen some really shitty moms and I've seen some really shitty dads.
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Yeah, I don't think any of us are saying there are not shitty moms as well as dads. As far as shitty moms goes, my girlfriend's mom is a perfect example of just that. When Nyx was born, her mom took her to her mother's house for her parents to raise because she did not want to do it. Then, when she had Nyx's brothers, she tried to do the same thing, but this time her dad told her that they had already raised one child for her, and that she was damn well going to take her boys and take care of them. Even now, she does nothing but sit around and do drugs, living with her crippled mother, while expecting others to help her and raise her children for her. She even had the gall enough to tell me and Nyx when we spent the night over there to take care of Nyx's grandmother, that it was shitty of us to bring food over for ourselves and none for the boys, even though we gladly shared with them. Then, when we went to leave, we were leaving the food behind that was left over because we did not need it at the house, and her mom said "oh we don't need it".
So yes, there are bad mothers out there. I was not denying that. But, for the mothers who give a shit, and actually nurture their children, then it should be them who does the raising in my opinion. After all, mothers are the ones who carry and birth the child, and if it were not for advances, they would also always be feeding them in the first 6 months or so.
Honestly, I think we need more family values as it is. I am not saying the mother should stay home or anything, but people who get married should stay that way and raise the family they wanted to have. I understand there are some cases where the relationship between the mother and father is just in no way going to work, but there are too many cases where the couple just doesn't try at all. In this case, both the mother and father would have 100% active roles in the child’s life, rather than splitting it up to when the courts see fit.