i was like that with my ex of 2 1/2 years. long serious relationships can change a guy completely, i lost alot of my old friends since i straightened out my life and stopped being such a lazy dipshit. nowadays if i go looking for a relationship, i dont just pick the first person i see that's attractive, i make sure i can see myself having a long lasting relationship with that person.

and also, some girls like when a guy is selfless even if its not too far into the relationship, after 1 month with my new girlfriend i was totally relaxed and i could do anything around her, and she didnt dislike it one bit.