The one should not be someone who is perfect or has traits you like. The one is that someone who forgives the fact that you aren't perfect and don't have the traits they like. I didn't realize that this girl that used to hang out with me and my friends was interested in me. I spent so much time looking for that perfect somebody that I didn't realize the person I was looking for was right under my nose. When I did realize it it was far too late. Ever since that day I have made sure to be more alert and aware of how people act towards me. You should do the same Shinto. Make sure you don't miss her because you look too hard.