Need to know which items to duel with

1. should i go with the .08 shako ber everything and have 74% dr or should i go with .09 shako ber the valor and ss have max dr and then havoc the shako?

2. .08 ss or .09? wonderin if the extra str is worth it to use .o8

3. use 10x cold charms or leave the 30 spaces to put in vita/fhr charms?