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Ive known this girl since freshman year, and we have always had this thing were we hook up and never have any strings attached. Last night, she invited me back, and before we started anything she turns to me and goes, i need to know if youll be my boy friend. I seriously had never thought about her in this reguard and once i asked her where this came from, she turns and with the most serious face ever, says " Im looking for after college right now, and your one of the best catches that me or any other girl can find." I told her that i would have to think about it, and she got mega pissed because i didnt give her an answer. Just then my phone rang, and she was closest to it and picks up and it is this other girl that i have been secretly interested in for the past 2 weeks. Well, this girl goes ape shit and kicks me out of her house and im stranded like a mile away from my house, drunk and cold. Man, all i want to know is why are girls crazy and have you had any experiences like this?

Well how old are you? It's never too early to think about the future, but talking about that while you've been drinking usually never leads up to anything good try doing so when you aren't hammered.

aww you broke her dreams :(

I'm still trying to comprehend the story.

So you have this fuckbuddy, and she wants to make it more serious. Tell her that even before you think about the future, (if you want) try and date for a while see how it goes etc? Or am I way off.

I know, if we were sober, then i could have collected my thoughts and said something insightful or almost compasonate. But because i was wasted, i had no fucken clue what to do. Ill be honst too, she basically had my nuts in a vice grip so that messed up my thinking also. All i know is, i dont think ill ever date her, but i would like to remain friends. She is pretty cool when she isnt going nuts.

D3V, it isnt like i havent been looking or setting up for my future. Im 21, and the last thing im looking for is a party girl to date. I go to bars with my boys to watch games, and if a girl just happens to be there, ill buy a drink. If we hook up later, then awesome, but because i bought her a drink doesnt mean im looking for everlasting love.

Klo, i never broke her dreams. Her stupid ex did last year.

We have never had sex. We just do other things ;).

You are basically right with the story, but i could never date her.

maybe that was her way of telling you she wanted to do it

haha

Well then man, here's what you do.

Tell her straight up how it is, tell her you don't want a party-girl tell her you want something much, MUCH more stable. Somebody that you can trust and grow together with. And say that if she isn't willing to do that exactly, if she isn't willing to grow up, then you aren't willing to make the effort as well, and leave it at that.

Stay away from the party girls. They are nothing but mothafuckin trouble.

Yeah, soon as you invest some trust into them, they're with another guy.

Good luck with that man. Not really the path I tend to go down. I've been hanging out with this girl Heather the past few days and I think we are going to end up in a relationship. Last night we had sex a few times and didn't go to sleep till like 6. Anyways, she is sleeping right now and I'm wide awake. Ugh.

Im pretty sure it was. But i wont go into a relationship for sex when i dont even want to be in that relationship.

Party girls are such trouble. I cant stand them anymore. Damn i just want a stable girl friend, maybe a sophmore.

I'm in the same situation, man. Problem is, the only girls I come across are party girls. I don't go to school and all the women at work are older than me (even though I'm talking to that 27 y/o). What am I gonna do.. go to the mall and pick up chicks? Yeah right.

There has to be other girls that you mingle with that aren't labeled 'party chicks' - there ARE good girls out there, they're just rare to find.

I know dude. I have no fucken clue where to find these girls. Its like, hey lets go to the Library and find a good girl. No way. Its, hey lets go to the bar, find a girl, hook up and then have half of our souls taken away.

Im just going to walk into a science class and figure out which ones are the nerds and the hottest one will help me with my homework. Ill let you know how it works out.

Donkey punch her. Next.

He said no stupid bullshit replies, Moron.

Oh, I'm so sorry. My apathy sickens me. Brb, crying.

Fuck that. You can't just go around assuming everyone is going to follow a dillusional fantasy in your own mind. Plus they've just been fuck buddys for 6 years or so. She can't switch it up.

I hear church is a great pick up place.

Yeah but you get Christians/other religious people at church. Fuck that.

Yea, and you've got a greater chance of picking up a girl who won't give it up until marriage. Nothing wrong with it, but that's a big "no" for most guys =P.